“It is an immutable law in business that words are words, explanations are explanations, promises are promises, but only performance is reality.”

—Harold S. Geneen


Performance is not the goal, but rather the measuring tool for whether passion and purpose are aligned. It’s not what we say, but rather what we do, that reveals our belief. As human beings we are a strange lot; we are full of contradictions; constantly saying one thing, and doing another. We know that cancer kills, yet we smoke. We know that being overweight leads to a rash of health complications, but we enjoy eating far too much, and we exercise far too little. We complain about the high cost of fuel, but we drive expensive, gas-guzzling SUVs, and the vast majority of our “off-road” SUVs have never been driven off-road! We renovate our kitchens and install commercial-grade cooking equipment, but then eat out more than ever. Our monthly budgets are too tight, but we all need cable TV. We marry the love of our life, but shortly into the marriage we forget what “cherish” means. We say that we know we must seize the day, but we continue to log overtime to pay for the many things that we “need”.

What we do speaks to what we believe much clearer than what we say.

In relationships, at work or in personal life, it is the same.We can say that we love, trust, respect…but our actions reveal the truth.

Try this out: 100% accountability to your values…integrity. NOT perfection…but a commitment, a resolve to be a person of full integrity, one who immediately calibrates (measures and adjusts) whenever there is a miss.

Where are you not reconciled in relationship? Calibrate.